“There’s a line between being a little cheap versus being sexy” which Kate Upton had recently said on her latest Vogue cover. It was an intriguing statement, didn’t really made the bold headlines at the front but it did capture my eye. She is one of today’s famous models but with this she’s also been classed as a sex symbol, like many other women out there, which in society has become a norm. In a sense, I confidently agreed to what she was applying, however her dialogue could have been sensed in a way it was aiming to the modelling industry, which I have a lot admiration for. However my article is based on generalisation of is there indeed a line between looking cheap vs being sexy. It can mean in a dress sense and by an individuals attitude, and when the two of these go together, the true colours of a persons identity can truly show.
I probably will get a lot of raised eyes brows with this, fair enough. Some of you might agree while some may be very optimist. As I say I have a lot of respect for certain aspects of the modelling industry, be it on a catwalk, or on a Vogue cover. Whether it is a celebrity, an artist or the general public like me and you out there.
Gone by the days where women although clothes were in a sense revealing (but not too much), were know to be beautiful classy sexy women. Three bold words. Now that phrase may be out the window in this century, and seem very old fashioned but in reality how many women you know have been described like that today, have you ever been? So first question I ask is what do you see when you look at the mirror?
Do you say “do I look beautiful or hot” If you said hot then you need to change your outfit. There is a subtle difference between beautiful and hot that many people can detect which ultimately influences the perception of being trashy and sexy. For some reason people have pretty much lost the definition for what constitutes a dress.
If someone was to ask me the difference I would respond my saying cheap is hooker-like style, heavy makeup and fake hair, to tight clothing that your skin can’t breath and a dress that’s like five times smaller than your normal size where your breasts are hanging out. Sexy however is wearing clothes that actually fit you and suit you, maybe in a classy style or just dressing modestly not too revealing, but just enough, not a lot of makeup, natural hair and that sexy also has that ‘mystery’ in it and that’s where the personality kicks in. That’s my perception of it.
Girls these days have so much less self esteem, that in order to get themselves recognised they are in sense selling a bit of flesh to become the best thing out there or just to fit in. my dressing in this trashy manner it often sends messages of insecurity and actually displays a lack of self confidence, but in reality when girls do this how comfortable are they within themselves. Anyone can put on a face to the outside world, be it with friends strangers employers, but when they are alone would they feel comfortable. If not then the question goes to has this become a choice for us. Are we in matter of fact being forced by society, is the social pressure we are put under by the constant images of skimpy outfits on magazines and the portrayal of women on billboards to blame that makes it ok to dress and behave in a certain manner. In a matter of fact 60% of women only dress like this to please their boyfriends, its what they think will satisfy them. But have you asked the guy what he would prefer you to be seen as. You’ll be surprised on his answer. Do you really think he’d want to take a women who wears something on a likes of a bikini to take home to his mother, I think not. Theirs a place to wear skimpy outfits. Its called the beach
Look all around us in films, advertising and music videos especially, sexy is portrayed as scantily clad women dancing, grinding and gyrating against, well, pretty much anything. But is that really sexy? I don’t think so and as I say its not about what you wear, but rather a combination of outfit and attitude. The outcome is what you make of it. What you want to be seen as.
Its not about exposing as much flesh as possible, that is just cheap and sleazy dressing leaves nothing to the imagination. I think guys would prefer to keep things to the imagination. If you reveal everything at once, they will only see you as an object, keep it classy women, you’ll keep them on their toes. Remember the difference between trashiness and beauty is just pure class. Theirs no other way to describe it and if you have it in you and remain confident in yourself you can still remain sexy while being classy but being cheap and slutty is over exploitation. Somehow outfits have become a full blown peep show, have they not?
I know sexy and beautiful is in the eye of the beholder, but there are some things that are universal. My article may have a lot of nodding heads from people thinking I’m wrong, as I say its simply gave my perception on what I thought of the difference of women who dressed cheap vs sexy. I would like to hear from you especially from men on what they think about this.
By Maria’m AS (ed. Truthrevoloution)